25 Years of Reader Wisdom Guide Helen Dennis Through Aging Challenges

Helen Dennis concluded her 25th year of writing the Successful Aging column by compiling a list of lessons learned directly from her readership. The column, which appears in the Southern California News Group, has reached its 26th year. Dennis, a nationally recognized leader on aging issues, stated that she continues to commit to providing research and perspectives on optimal aging while incorporating personal experience.

Readers provided varied advice on social dynamics and health risks. One reader suggested listening to her podcast, Three Old Broads and a Lady, to understand why friends repeat stories. The subheading of the podcast is "Remembering the Last 7 Decades Unless We Forget, Then We Make It Up." Another reader noted that retired individuals may repeat stories to feel included in conversations. She described her uncle as brilliant but unable to engage effectively with others.

Health concerns dominated many submissions. Readers emphasized the connection between untreated hearing loss and dementia. While hearing loss is a risk factor, it does not guarantee the development of dementia. Experts suggest controlling this risk by getting hearing checked and using aids if necessary. Dennis also highlighted Dementia Friendly America, an organization created from the 2015 White House Conference on Aging. The group offers a toolkit for planning dementia-friendly holiday events.

The passage of time and milestone birthdays generated mixed reactions from readers. A man turning 82 said he sees his deceased mother in the mirror and buys long-sleeved shirts to hide baggy arms. A 60-year-old woman described her anxiety about being viewed as old. To counter this, she and her friends decided to celebrate their collective aging throughout the year. Another reader turning 60 expected to feel satisfied but did not. When asked how Dennis feels about her own age number, she replied, "I don't know if I have a number."

Physical safety remains a primary concern for older adults. One reader recounted a fall that occurred while escaping a threatening neighbor's dog. She misjudged the distance to a curb while crossing the street. Her shoe caught the curb, causing her to fly through the air. The accident resulted in a broken shoulder and a torn rotator cuff. She required surgery for a shoulder replacement and was in her seventh month of recovery. Her advice is to be aware of surroundings and avoid rushing. Another friend advised being intentional rather than just careful.

The columns have also influenced educational settings. An instructor at a Senior Center uses Dennis's columns for class assignments. Students select a column, take it home, and prepare a presentation for the next class. Readers also shared anecdotes about ageism. One woman returning an item without a receipt said a salesclerk gave her a break because she was elderly and could be trusted. Another reader who read the column on potential now looks in the mirror each morning and says, "I can't wait to see what I will be doing next year."

Other topics covered in reader responses include employment, politics, legacy, friendship, exercise, and purpose. Dennis maintains contact with readers through her email, Helendenn@gmail.com. She also operates the website HelenMdennis.com and maintains a Facebook page at facebook.com/SuccessfulAgingCommunity.